The book was not as bad as the person.
This is a must read/listen to for any parent or caretaker, in my opinion. I really liked the short-lived show on Amazon called, Transparent. It is about a “modern” liberal West Coast wealthy family getting on in life, at one point the doofy eldest daughter has an idea to write a book about raising kids and a philosophy she calls, “Kids on Top”. Its hilarious, trust me. This book is not far off from that concept, parents have spent way too much time looking down on their kids and not getting down to their level. It is at best an unfortunate case that all people need to start life as tiny and helpless. Just imagine how it feels to know nothing except helplessness, it must be hard.
Putting yourself in the shoes of your kids is a lot of what this book is about. They use phrases like, “get down on their level”, “ask, don’t tell” and, well you get the idea right? Kids on top.
It all sounds great but I will give one specific example for why I don’t think it works
How to deal with a tantrum.
Step 1. Find out what is going on. Ask them how they are feeling or what happened to them.
Step 2. Listen to them. Why are the upset, what are they trying to say?
Step 3. Get on their level. Try and feel what they are feeling. If they are angry, tell them how you can get angry too and you know just how it feels.
Step 4. Distract them. Once you have their attention and are on their level, get them to move to something else nearby.
Step 5. Revisit the situation. After everyone is calmed down, up to a few days later, bring up the problem and talk through what happened, why and what we could do better next time.
Lets try it out at home.
One night, we find the boy (four) having a fit about a toy his sister is playing with.
Step 1, find out what happened. He is being a jerk to his sister because he wants the toy, ok, step 2.
Step 2, listen. “Son, why are you upset what do you need?”. Son, “She has my TOYY! I WANT IT!!!!” So far so good
Step 3, get on his level. So kneeling down I say, “[boy] I know. I know just what you mean. I want stuff a lot of the time that I can’t have and it stinks, I know just how you feel and I love you.”, him, “AAAAAAAhhhhggggg!” and runs away screaming after knocking over a potted plant on his way out of the room screaming, "Go Away Forever!"
This was still a great book, a great perspective and the authors do an amazing job, it just didn’t work as advertised for me.
What a dumb site
It was a good book but the follow up sucked, they said the same thing in both books, lame.
dumb book, dumb site, die
you guys are all idiots
How did you get the downvotes so high?
This is a great book, I loved hearing his take of many classic stories from the Old Testament reinterpretations to him explaining just what Pinocchio was really all about (its actually pretty cool :). As a University Professor, Dr. Peterson really comes off as such, his extremely well practiced and focused ramblings are the riveting tales of an old man around a campfire, layered, wise and captivating.
It is enough to know that it is a great book with a lot of good, general advice for life, one of my favorite parts was the following, his list of nine "Rules for Kids", here it is paraphrased:
1. No hitting, kicking or biting, except in self-defense (so you don't end up in jail).
2. Don't torture or a bully other kids (so you don't end up in jail).
3. Eat in a civilized and thankful way (so people are pleased to feed you).
4. Share with other kids (so that they will play with you).
5. Pay attention, stand up straight and talk to adults (so they don't hate you and might teach you something).
6. Go to sleep peaceably (so that your parents can have a private life and not resent your existence).
7. Take care of your belongings (because you need to learn how and we are lucky to have them).
8. Be good company when there is fun around (so you will be invited to the fun next time).
9. Act like you are happy that other people are around (so that they will be happy when you are around).
Dr. Peterson read this book himself for Audible and did an amazing job. At one very endearing point towards the end of Chapter 8 the author's voice begins to give. For a good 5 minutes he pushes through (sounding absolutely horrible) but the fact that he doesn't stop seems to be in line with the theme of the book.
12 rules for idiots is more like it.
dumb book, dumb site, die
Crashed was so good I had to listen to it twice! If you have any interest in the economy this is a must read/listen to book. The author describes how at the onset he intended to write a book about the 2008 financial crises but once he got started realized that book is simply not possible to write ecause we are still in the 2008 financial crises 10 year later.
I both love and hate the Tulip Bulb Bubble story because it has so little to do with financial bubbles and modern economics it is a joke it is so often referenced, but like in most cases the allegory holds some wisdom. Here, imagine that in the 1600's the Dutch government had decided that the Tulip market was "too-big-to-fail", what would have happened?
As it did happen, it was an economic disater for a lot of perople, especially the wealthy who had a lot of money tied up in these investment (mostly because they were backed by the Dutch government, just like Fannie May backing US mortages). Rich people saw that Tulip investments had government backing so essentially were "safe". But when the market began to fall, the Dutch changed their minds when they realized they could not cover all the "paper" debt. It was a big crash to say the least.
But, what would have happened if instead the Dutch government had said “No” to the crash and decided that it was better to instead print enough new money to buy out ALL of the tulip bulb contracts that were vastly over priced (because they had initially decided to back them)? Because that is exactly what happened in 2008.
In 2008 the US government was running their own little Tulip Bulb bubble scam. The idea was they would use government institutions (Fannie May to buy up ALL the mortgages they could, then “back” them from defaulting. Just like when the Dutch did the same thing with Tulip bulbs, government backing sent prices sky high. Not only were they inflating the market, giving (yes GIVING) houses to people that would never be able to pay back the mortgage taken out, they were backing the bad mortgages with Fannie May!
Once the world saw there was being, essentially, unlimited debt being created and backed by the US government at greater that 5% interest, there was no question, and the world financial markets started to pile in. This is why the majority of the TARP bail out funds went to foreign banks, like Deuschea Bank, they were the ones holding most of the bad debt, and the US was on the hook for it.
The US had no choice but to print $Trillions and hand it out to German, China and Japan.
So, what would have happened to the Dutch had they decided to do what we did? Who know but I can bet it would have been a lot worse for everyone involved. The US bailed out FOREIGN banks at the expense of US tax payers. This was not a choice, but still, super messed up to think my grand-kids’ taxes will probably be going to pay for this bail out for decades to come. In 2018 the 2008 financial crises is not over my friends, it is just getting started.
- Flashbacks 1997 by Timothy Leary
- The Doors of Perception and Heaven and Hell 1953 by Aldous Huxley
- Walden and Civil Disobedience 2012 by Henry David Thoreau
- Mastery 2013 by Robert Greene
- The Omnivore's Dilemma: A Natural History of Four Meals 2006 by Michael Pollan
- The Botany of Desire: A Plant's-Eye View of the World 2002 by Michael Pollan
1) Poor people save for stuff. They save for emergencies, vacations, cars, retirement, they save now to spend later. The super rich (or soon to be super rich) save to invest, all else be damned.
2) Live like you're broke. Every check, put away as much of it as you possibly can, leaving just barley enough to live on (if not less), and NEVER touch the savings except to invest it.
3) Manage "income flows". Ask yourself, "who has my money" (i.e. money you can possibly get) and no matter how small, look for additional income flows from those people and as soon as one income flow can be ignored move on. Work to build and stabilize one income flow, then look for the next. This takes working harder and longer than anyone else around you. Ignore friends and family, do not take vacations. Number one rule (of rule number 3) you are always working.
I love the people this book is about, they are the closest thing I think I might have to human heroes. Author Steven Levy delivers with the perfect sub-title. Day-to-day it is lost on us where the technology we use comes from. We might (at most) worry about the manufacturing process, or even the trade in value or where to recycle an old device, but where did the iPhone really come from, why don't monitors flicker any more, is the current technological environment we find ourselves in the inevitable result of the laws of nature and discovery, or
was it shaped inexorably by the minds of a select few incredibly hard working and very bright young hackers in the 1960's to
Hackers did it. Who built Apple computers, largest company in the world, hackers. Richest man in the world, a self-described hacker. Why do we have "word processors", video games, color screens... literally everything we enjoy today is only because a hacker was there, working night after night, alone on a problem until it was solved.So much of what hackers have innovated may seem so obvious that we can't image technology would have gone any other way, but the internet itself proves a perfect example of why Hackers should be your heroes if they are not already. In the beginning, Internets were closed and the mode was for a centralized database that was only accessible though a gatekeeper.
That would have been (that WAS) the internet, until a hacker Tim Berners-Lee hacked up a free "Web" accessible World Wide and for free.My point is not to convince to that Hackers should be our god-kings, appointed for life and voted in by fellow Hackers into the Hacker Ruling Elite, it is just that you should read this book. Hackers is amazing because the people it is about literally built from the ground up our current way of life and their stories are amazing. If in the future, after robots have taken all the jobs and the world is divided into the Gods and Useless it is the Hacker forefathers who will be worshiped as Gods of the Gods and demonized by the 99.9% as creators of the monstrous hell that they kick started way back in the early 1960's.
Ernest Cline is an effective story teller with a great story to tell for our generation of over-prepared and under-challenged youth. This is an incredible book about a young cyber-punk hero, Wade, who needs to beat the evil MegaCorp in the World's Greatest Video game in order to save the world (the video game world) from being lost (be subject to a small fee to play rather than be free).
The author paints a beautifully depressing picture of a dark and dying future where most people spend their time in virtual reality with some kind of full body feed-back suit that lets them interact with the video game world, called the Oasis.
I shouldn't give too much away about how and why our hero is a starving, video game addicted homeless teenager playing in a game for his life in virtual reality against the World's largest and most evil company, but I can tell you this is a hell of a dystopian ride and I would recommend it to everyone that wants a great story and to feel really shitty about the future we are leaving our children at the same time.
From the start, the concept is great, nearly everything is told from within the video game. At times games are being played within "the game" and the reader is completely taken in to the virtual world along with the characters. Of course the author plays with ideas like people forgetting to eat, sleep, or keep their real-life bodies warm while they are in game and we get to have a lot of fun imaging their world, where anyone can slip away from the real at anytime into their own personally designed digital heaven.
A great read, I'll be looking for more from Ernest Cline ASAP, now I gotta unplug get back to reality for a bit :(